Why do they get away with it? Because we let them. Because we make excuses for them. Because we like them. Because they know they can get away with it. Because deep down we want to be wanted so badly that we'll compromise how we expect to be treated with how they treat us. Plus, let's be honest with ourselves---tools tend to be on the attractive side.
As a random side note, I'm blogging about this because I can't find the wii remote to watch White Collar on Netflix. I blame the roommate who holes herself into her would-be-dungeon if she wasn't a muggle.
In any case, I just got done dating one of these tools. Well, sort of. Once I decide to grow up and do what's best for me, we will.
Let me paint a picture for you.
Okay, now let me actually paint a picture for you. But this time it's about the guy I was dating. And the weapon of choice: words.
Attractive, fun, nice, stable, and many more things. So of course I liked him. However, he kind of only liked me a little bit. So why did he bring up exclusively dating? Heck if I know. Apparently he doesn't even know. I think it's because he thought that's what I wanted. His guess was that he hadn't had a girlfriend in a while, so obviously I was the perfect solution. T_T
It became pretty apparent that there was no way that he was interested in me enough to be exclusively dating me. Come on people, if you agree to only date one person, you gotta like them a pretty good amount. Enough that you'd actually, oh, I don't know--put EFFORT into your relationship. But this guy really didn't. Oh, excuse me--one time out of the two months we were dating, he actually said that I looked pretty. My bad. His excuse was that he didn't want to put in a lot of effort because he didn't know how much he liked me. TRANSLATION: He didn't like me enough to put effort into our relationship, and he obviously didn't like me enough to be that affectionate. And hello, girls need that, or else they're just going to feel like crap about themselves. It's an amazing feeling to be dating someone and really feel like that don't give a horse's poop about you. Basically my favorite.
Now to the best part: He finally admits that exclusively dating me probably isn't the path he'd rather take. Actually, he'd rather just casually hang out with me and date me. That's basically like saying, "Hi, I have an idea. I really can't see this going anywhere, but I like hanging out with you, so I'm going to be selfish and try to keep you around so that you can even feel worse about yourself. Now I can maybe just text you once a week instead of the three times a week, and now I don't have to call you at all, even though there was that one time that I did...and oh ya, now I can hook up with other girls while you secretly wish that I would like you more".
PERFECT, RIGHT?!? So here I am, a freaking pansy, and even though I know I'd get hurt by it, I really, really, want to still be around him so I'm considering this awful proposal. Why? As I said before--Because deep down we want to be wanted so badly that we'll compromise how we expect to be treated with how they treat us. That's not even taking into consideration the whole when-you-date-someone-you-become-attached thing.
Now, if you'll excuse me, I need to go Ava Kedavra my roommate or something.
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