It is a generally recognized fact that I have in fact dated a lot of tools in my past. Why? I haven't the slightest clue. It's not like I go out searching to find the most dishonest guy who will treat me like like I'm worthless. No, no. I actually do try to find decent guys.
Before I get ahead of myself, some poor souls are wondering, what does she mean by a tool? Besides being any guy i've ever dated (with a couple of exceptions), tools, in my opinion, are just guys who are on the narcissistic/egotistical side who don't really care too much about you. It's one of those, hey, you're replaceable kind of dealios. Overall, they just do really stupid things. And they get away with it.
EXAMPLES:
Guy #1: i met when i was a young 14 yr old girl. He was outgoing, smooth, popular with the ladies. So wouldn't it seem obvious that I would have crush on this boy? It's not like I was the only one. In any case, we dated for a while until I got a call saying that he liked some other girl. AKA he'd been pursuing a relationship with this girl and then finally he had to tell me. Except for oh, he had his best friend call me because he didn't have the nerve. This agitated me a little bit, so when my twin brother asked who called I snidely responded it was none of his business. Not the best approach to someone you're close to.
Guy #2: Another lady's man. Very self-confident, but very sweet every once in a while. So we're dating and the very NEXT day I was talking to a friend of mine. She asked me if there was anything going on between us. I told her we were dating. She was shocked and said she'd back off because apparently that day he had been hitting on her and he had insinuated that he did not in fact have a significant other. So I broke up with him, and maybe out of spite starting dating another guy VERY soon after I broke up with him. Well, this guy ended up being a really decent guy. Very funny...amazing character. Anyhow, the WHOLE time I'm dating this guy, the boy I'm calling guy #2 was trying to win back my affections. He even had the audacity to come up to me, KISS ME, and walk away when i was dating this guy. I seriously stood there bewildered for about five minutes until I could regain my composure. And no, i didn't kiss him back. However, I was totally unprepared and inexperienced at the art of blocking kisses. haha. Anyhow, the guy I was dating and I finally broke up because, even though it wasn't my fault, I still felt guilty about what had happened. The night we break up, guy #2 calls me and wonders if I'm down with dating him again. Wow. It was one of those, hello, I just broke up with this guy. I told him I probably needed some time (understatement of the year). Well, within the week he was dating a good friend of mine.
Guy #3: I had assumed he was a good old country boy. He was very sweet to me, and and he called me beautiful as sort of a pet name. Although he was never unkind to me, he wasn't always honest. Every once in a while I would catch him lying when some stories just wouldn't add up. Then, out of the blue, he stopped answering my calls. Every once in a while he'd answer and say he was busy. So I just stopped calling. I hate feeling clingy. Well, after about two weeks I looked at his myspace page and lo and behold, he was dating someone else! I didn't even get a proper dismissal.
Guy #4: We weren't technically dating. We both knew I was leaving, so we weren't going to make any kind of long-term commitment. However, we went on 1-2 dates a week---which is a lot when you live almost an hour away from each other. Then there was one week where he had stopped texting me as much, and hadn't really called me. You see, one night I brought him to a party, and I introduced him to a girl that was from the same city as he was. Little did I know that in the time after I introduced them, they started hanging out and decided they liked each other. I find out from the boyfriend of this girl that all of this was going on. I don't really blame the girl at all. You see, they had a conversation that kind of goes like this:
Girl: Are you and Sheila dating?
Guy: No.
Girl: Is there anything going on between you?
Guy: No.
Girl: Are you sure?
Guy: Yes, we're just friends.
Well, because we were just friends, I accidentally gave the guy mono who in return gave the girl mono. Karma anyone?
Why, do you ask, am I writing all of this? Well, because last night my roommate and I went over to this guy's apartment. He seemed cool and I wasn't sure if I liked him or not. He was in the past interested, but I knew he wasn't anymore by his lame excuse of him not wanting to hang out because he just wasn't in the mood. I was fine with that, whatever. He was lying...he just doesn't like me and didn't want to tell me. BUT then he facebooked me asking me to come over but to bring a girl with me. Pretty much he wanted to use me to get a girl for his roommate. My roommate (who i brough with me) was uninterested in his roommate. Not only that, but the guy who invited me over was hitting on her!!! haha. Now that, my friends, is a straight up tool. All the more reason to stay away from them.
And now i'm done venting. :) cheerio!
Before I get ahead of myself, some poor souls are wondering, what does she mean by a tool? Besides being any guy i've ever dated (with a couple of exceptions), tools, in my opinion, are just guys who are on the narcissistic/egotistical side who don't really care too much about you. It's one of those, hey, you're replaceable kind of dealios. Overall, they just do really stupid things. And they get away with it.
EXAMPLES:
Guy #1: i met when i was a young 14 yr old girl. He was outgoing, smooth, popular with the ladies. So wouldn't it seem obvious that I would have crush on this boy? It's not like I was the only one. In any case, we dated for a while until I got a call saying that he liked some other girl. AKA he'd been pursuing a relationship with this girl and then finally he had to tell me. Except for oh, he had his best friend call me because he didn't have the nerve. This agitated me a little bit, so when my twin brother asked who called I snidely responded it was none of his business. Not the best approach to someone you're close to.
Guy #2: Another lady's man. Very self-confident, but very sweet every once in a while. So we're dating and the very NEXT day I was talking to a friend of mine. She asked me if there was anything going on between us. I told her we were dating. She was shocked and said she'd back off because apparently that day he had been hitting on her and he had insinuated that he did not in fact have a significant other. So I broke up with him, and maybe out of spite starting dating another guy VERY soon after I broke up with him. Well, this guy ended up being a really decent guy. Very funny...amazing character. Anyhow, the WHOLE time I'm dating this guy, the boy I'm calling guy #2 was trying to win back my affections. He even had the audacity to come up to me, KISS ME, and walk away when i was dating this guy. I seriously stood there bewildered for about five minutes until I could regain my composure. And no, i didn't kiss him back. However, I was totally unprepared and inexperienced at the art of blocking kisses. haha. Anyhow, the guy I was dating and I finally broke up because, even though it wasn't my fault, I still felt guilty about what had happened. The night we break up, guy #2 calls me and wonders if I'm down with dating him again. Wow. It was one of those, hello, I just broke up with this guy. I told him I probably needed some time (understatement of the year). Well, within the week he was dating a good friend of mine.
Guy #3: I had assumed he was a good old country boy. He was very sweet to me, and and he called me beautiful as sort of a pet name. Although he was never unkind to me, he wasn't always honest. Every once in a while I would catch him lying when some stories just wouldn't add up. Then, out of the blue, he stopped answering my calls. Every once in a while he'd answer and say he was busy. So I just stopped calling. I hate feeling clingy. Well, after about two weeks I looked at his myspace page and lo and behold, he was dating someone else! I didn't even get a proper dismissal.
Guy #4: We weren't technically dating. We both knew I was leaving, so we weren't going to make any kind of long-term commitment. However, we went on 1-2 dates a week---which is a lot when you live almost an hour away from each other. Then there was one week where he had stopped texting me as much, and hadn't really called me. You see, one night I brought him to a party, and I introduced him to a girl that was from the same city as he was. Little did I know that in the time after I introduced them, they started hanging out and decided they liked each other. I find out from the boyfriend of this girl that all of this was going on. I don't really blame the girl at all. You see, they had a conversation that kind of goes like this:
Girl: Are you and Sheila dating?
Guy: No.
Girl: Is there anything going on between you?
Guy: No.
Girl: Are you sure?
Guy: Yes, we're just friends.
Well, because we were just friends, I accidentally gave the guy mono who in return gave the girl mono. Karma anyone?
Why, do you ask, am I writing all of this? Well, because last night my roommate and I went over to this guy's apartment. He seemed cool and I wasn't sure if I liked him or not. He was in the past interested, but I knew he wasn't anymore by his lame excuse of him not wanting to hang out because he just wasn't in the mood. I was fine with that, whatever. He was lying...he just doesn't like me and didn't want to tell me. BUT then he facebooked me asking me to come over but to bring a girl with me. Pretty much he wanted to use me to get a girl for his roommate. My roommate (who i brough with me) was uninterested in his roommate. Not only that, but the guy who invited me over was hitting on her!!! haha. Now that, my friends, is a straight up tool. All the more reason to stay away from them.
And now i'm done venting. :) cheerio!
